Why no one knows what to say anymore—and how ARCHER is fixing it
Remember when “Hey” was enough?
Neither do we.
Somewhere between voice notes, emoji-only sexting, and the existential dread of opening another dating app, gay men forgot how to start a damn conversation. And honestly? We get it. You’ve seen 17 shirtless guys named Matt, and now you’re stuck staring at another blank chat window, wondering if “What’s up?” is going to unlock true love—or lust—or just get left on read.
Luckily, ARCHER isn’t here to judge. We’re here to help you shoot your shot—with actual aim.
Meet: Ice Breakers 🧊💬
Our latest feature is designed for those of us who are either out of words or out of patience. Ice Breakers let you skip the awkward intros and jump right into fun, flirty, and sometimes unhinged territory. Think of them as conversation starters with charisma.
Here’s how it works:
- You add an Ice Breaker question to your profile.
- Someone sees it.
- They answer it.
- Boom: Conversation started. Message sent. Vibes established.
Oh, and because it’s ARCHER, your profile also gets a little visibility boost for having an Ice Breaker. So yes, your personality and your face are working overtime.
So what are gays actually talking about?
We did a little digging into the most popular Ice Breakers, and let’s just say…the girls are not shy.
🔥 “Describe your favorite sex position using only emojis.”
Shakespeare could never. This one’s a crowd favorite for obvious reasons: it’s horny and creative. Bonus points if you can make someone laugh and blush.
🎤 “If you had to lip-sync for your life, which song would you choose?”
A classic. The gays love a performance fantasy—and if his answer is your most played artist, marry him.
📺 “Be famous for being messy on reality TV or famous for a one-hit wonder pop song?”
We love a dilemma. Are you chaotic or campy? Either way, the answer says a lot.
👻 “If we had to coordinate Halloween costumes, what duo are we going as?”
It’s giving couplecore. Also: immediate insight into creativity, sense of humor, and whether they know how to make any character sexy.
💔 “What’s the most unhinged reason you’ve ever stopped talking to someone?”
No judgment here—we’ve all ghosted a guy because he clapped when the plane landed.
These aren’t just cute one-liners. They reveal the stuff that makes someone actually interesting—music taste, humor, red flags, sexual energy, the whole vibe.
Not sure what to say first? We got you.
Here are a few flirty, funny, and occasionally unhinged openers that go way beyond “hey.” Use them as inspo for your next intro-message—or shamelessly copy-paste, we’re not judging. Just don’t be boring.
1. Describe your vibe using only emojis. I’ll go first: 🍷🧠💦🎧
2. What’s your “you had to be there” hookup story? Bonus points if it involves public transportation.
3. You get one song to seduce someone—what are you playing, and are you making eye contact?
4. Be honest: ever left mid-date? What happened?
5. If our situationship gets turned into a movie, what’s the genre and who plays us?
6. Pick one: deep, late-night convos or chaotic kitchen counter makeouts?
7. You + me + a weekend away. Where are we going and what are we absolutely not telling anyone about it?
8. What’s your most irrational turn-on? (No judgment—mine might involve sweatpants.)
9. If you had to cook me one meal to convince me to sleep over…what’s on the menu?
10. Your ex would describe you in 3 words. What are they—and are they wrong?
TL;DR? We’re making conversation easier—and a lot more fun.
You don’t need a pick-up line that deserves a Pulitzer. You just need a question worth answering. Ice Breakers make it easy to go from match to message without the social anxiety. And the best part? You might actually learn something about the guy before deciding whether he’s brunch material or just a weekend fling.
So go ahead. Add an Ice Breaker to your profile.
Be bold. Be weird. Be honest.
Just, whatever you do, don’t say “Hey.”
